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Well in the course of an evening we've pretty much changed every single bit of our wedding plan except the date.
Still 10/24/04.
That's uhm.. about it really aside from the whole... me and karl being there thing.

Time constraints mean that unless we drop the date (and the date has been the only thing I've been really sure about since the "yes I want to marry you" part), it's going to freakin kill us to plan a wedding at the place we'd been looking at (The Sanderling resort in Duck North Carolina), and still get all of the work leading up to it done and not be so fucking burnt out that we couldn't enjoy it.

Also, we can't really move the date. My work has beeen scheduled around this, Karl's time off is definitely set in stone... so if we want a honeymoon, it has to be 10/24.
(the date is also significant to us both, so that's important).

So, after an offhanded "I wanna go to vegas" remark from Karl last night I asked if he'd prefer that for a wedding, he asked if *I* would prefer that for a wedding and we got talking about this again.
I just tossed out a random "Yeah, I mean, I could see us getting married in the sculpture garden and the Hirshorn" and then about 10 minutes later we were both giddy about the idea.

Tiny marriage at the Hirshorn. Nice dinner out. Spending that night at the Ritz (using the gift night that Steph and Andre gave Karl for his birthday). Then flying out to London the next day for our honeymoon (4-5 days in London, then the Eurostar to Paris, finishing up with another 4-5 in Paris then the flight back home).
Then, when we get back home, a reception that will include all of our family, all of our friends, cutting of the cake, a chance to socialize and have that sort of engagement party/ bridal shower/ etc. that we aren't going to have time for before hand.

We will need a photographer that we like... some sort of flowers (small amounts). I need a dress and a passport. We need an officiant and a marriage license.


Pissing off my family is the last thing I want to do right now. It's not a matter of not including them, it's a matter of me taking one day out of my life to do something that is entirely about what I want for myself. I hope that once my mother hears this she will understand. I hope that as soon as she hears "Hirshorn" she'll get it. I've been in love with that building since I was 14 years old, it was the first sort of ... day out me and Karl had when we first met... I love the area... some of the best photographs I've ever taken were of that building... it's beautiful and meaningful and closeby and easier and it's just so damned *us* ...

I wasn't excited about my wedding. I was... but I wasn't. The details felt opressive. Planning felt huge... and the further we've gotten into it.. the less enthusiastic I've felt. My wedding will not be a chore. I don't want anything grand and I don't want anything typical no flock of white doves as we open the chapel doors kind of stuff. I want it to mean something to me and to Karl. That's all I want. I'm not asking much. It's what I want. Last night I was absolutely giddy to the point of not getting much sleep. It was that Santa's coming feeling. It was excellent.

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frobisher
Aug. 10th, 2004 02:43 pm (UTC)
One of my best friends got so frustrated with bridesmaid coordination that she and her groom ran of to Sandals in Antigua for the wedding (I was the only not-family guest), and then had the reception later back here. Worked out great.

Go wild.
maddening
Aug. 11th, 2004 05:08 am (UTC)
See my concern is that it's really going to be just me, Karl, and three other people, non family. The family would come in later when we got back.

I'm sure you can see the potential there for someone not being too happy about that.
frobisher
Aug. 11th, 2004 11:43 am (UTC)
Yeah.

On the other hand, my cousin decided to get married while he was in vegas, and just called his brother to ask if he wanted to be best man in absentia.

Extrordinarily stupid question, I'm sure: Isn't this about you being happy? Dammit?
punkalicia
Aug. 10th, 2004 02:53 pm (UTC)
while you frequently get the crazies, this does not appear to be part of said crazies.

i'm still wavering on the going out in a hail of bullets and doves.
akadashi
Aug. 10th, 2004 04:09 pm (UTC)
woo
frobisher
Aug. 10th, 2004 05:59 pm (UTC)
Heh.
maddening
Aug. 11th, 2004 05:09 am (UTC)
I dunno man... can't we just have the slo mo wedding and then, as we're leaving, going up the steps have the doves come out and uh ... someone *else* go down in the hail of bullets.

I dunno if I want my wedding to be a blockbuster.
albertoromero
Aug. 10th, 2004 04:14 pm (UTC)
I need a dress and a passport

So many great things have started with that statement!
maddening
Aug. 11th, 2004 05:10 am (UTC)
most of them espionage films... but that's okay too!
mjfgates
Aug. 10th, 2004 06:44 pm (UTC)
Do they have Elvis impersonators? It's just not a real wedding without the King.
maddening
Aug. 11th, 2004 05:10 am (UTC)
In Vegas they have BILLIONS.... but not so much at the sculpture garden.
Maybe they have a suggestion box. I could suggest Elvis impersonators as an installation... roving Elvi ... like pigeons.
akadashi
Aug. 11th, 2004 08:41 am (UTC)
I for one do NOT want to see Elvis shitting on a twisted metal rabbit head at our wedding, thank you.
frobisher
Aug. 11th, 2004 11:44 am (UTC)
You know, I never thought I'd hear you say that.

I mean, yeah, I never thought I'd hear anyone say it, but especially you.
kaeren
Aug. 11th, 2004 02:42 pm (UTC)
Yer no fun
I can't imagine why not?!
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