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Mar. 12th, 2004

Browsing random crap in journals and I came across a discussions about abuse/punishment as a kid and what's justified or out of line...

People really do think they're more abused than they are. The phrase "I think I've blocked out my childhood" pops up way too many times. *Way* too many times. Maybe the reason you don't remember being abused is because it didn't happen?
Maybe?
Can we open that as a possibility instead of just jumping to the conclusion that you were HORRIBLY abused and have therefore blocked all memory of it?

The desire to be a victim... where does that come from? Is it the national focus on it? Is it Oprah? Where did this culture of entitlement and victimization come from? Why do so many people go out of their way to be broken?

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starchy
Mar. 12th, 2004 09:54 am (UTC)
A lot of people realize they're not special. They're Just Another Human. It's tough to find something so positive as to set them apart -- but it's easy to manufacture something so negative, isn't it?
mjfgates
Mar. 12th, 2004 10:03 pm (UTC)
Sister-in-law managed to *sort of* suppress her memories of abuse, because Wife's troubles were so much worse. She's spent the last couple years bringing it all back up, which is part of why Wife's so messed up lately-- SHE dealt with most of this crap back in her early 20s. However, the part where Wife remembered the thrown chair being brown... and S-i-L remembering it being black... and then they started talking about it and remembered that there was ALSO a sort of blond-wood-color one, and then realized that their mother had destroyed THREE separate chairs and thrown the bits at them, on three separate occasions... that was kind'a interesting, in a horrible sort of way.
maddening
Mar. 13th, 2004 08:40 am (UTC)
I never had repressed memories. I'm one of those lucky suckers who remembers absolutely everything. I'm pretty sure that my sister is the same way, which is why she's just so angry all the time.
I learned that being actively fucked up and mad about things that, one way or another, stopped for me over 10 years ago is pointless and only makes my life one of misery. My sister, well, she's carrying around a sense of entitlement, a sense of 'you owe me', and a lot of anger for the childhood she didn't get to have and it's made her life miserable.
I didn't go to therapy or end up on pills, but I probably should have. Would have saved a lot of grief and pain in the interim.

Some people have repressed childhood memories of abuse. I'm not saying it doesn't happen becuase I know people its happened to.
It just makes me angry when people who've had honestly not so bad lives go out of their way to paint them as black as possible, no matter what the situation. It feels *demeaning* to those people I know who've honestly been through nightmare situations.

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