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oh my god , fuck you LJ

So ... with just a very tiny amount of looking into it, I have to say that the majority of people I've seen who've posted that sexual abuse meme (proclaim to the land of LJ that you've been abused and wear it as sort of badge of honor) are currently poly, heavily into BDSM, M/s relationships, or just enjoy showing their tits to the world repeatedly becuase it's "their choice, their body".

Some could see that as taking the power back, as exercising choices over who sees, who does, who is allowed on their own terms. And there is of course the slim chance that that's the case... but it's really doubtful.

Why don't most people see that behavior as a side effect? It's not that difficult to see that being sexualized at an early age (in the case of childhood sexual abuse) really easily lends itself to high levels of promiscuity and the NEED for sexual attention later in life. Girls who were abused as pre-teens typically end up equating (subconsciously usually) sex with love. If they don't want to fuck you, they can't possibly care about you. Affection is EQUAL to sex. This is especially true in the case of abuse from family members, older male family members.

This is just personal experience. I'm not a clinician, no training, haven't had some course work or a doctor to tell me it's so. I don't have any sort of statistics to back it up. I don't think I need statistics.

Anyway, this is one of the things that bothers me the most about forums like Live Journal. They aren't avenues for self discovery, they're the means to futher delusion and just another way to hide.

(I'm also really ticked by the number of "when I was a teenager, a peer pinched my ass, therefore I was sexually abused" instances I've seen. How fucking demeaning to anyone who's actually been through something terrible. Everyone has their different levels of tolerance, different levels of strength. I accept and understand that. But some people go out of their way to make up a terrible life that didn't exist, and how incredibly thoughtless is that?)


Aug. 4th, 2004 09:25 am (UTC)
If you read any serious medical literature on people who were sexually abused as children, one of the first things that's always mentioned is that such people tend to equate sex with affection and that they frequently engage in unusual sexual practices. The ignorance of average people... hell, I don't even bother asking "why" anymore, it's like asking why rocks fall down.

The "somebody pinched my ass I WAS ABUUUUUUSED" folks... hm. Haven't met any, honestly. But then, I don't bother with idiots, that probably has something to do with it.
Aug. 4th, 2004 10:02 am (UTC)
You haven't hung out with enough goths.

mean, but true.
Aug. 4th, 2004 10:56 am (UTC)
I think I've hung out with about two. That's plenty.
Aug. 4th, 2004 11:49 am (UTC)
So you see what I'm saying here.

(heh, are we talking goths or goffs?)
Aug. 6th, 2004 11:32 am (UTC)
Um... is there some difference in quality? :-)
Aug. 6th, 2004 01:54 pm (UTC)
They seem to think so...
Aug. 4th, 2004 04:12 pm (UTC)
I hang out with precisely the right number of idiot goths.
Aug. 4th, 2004 06:15 pm (UTC)
how many goths does it take to change a lightbulb?
Aug. 4th, 2004 09:03 pm (UTC)
Three. One to bite the first one on the neck.
Aug. 4th, 2004 09:38 pm (UTC)
HELLOOOOO .. Rhetorical... LIke... DUUUHH

okay, comments definitely need to be able to have phone posts.
That doesn't come across at all without the voice in my head.


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